I won't toy with your patience and list the entire conversation from the run. Suffice to say, I had some people who seemed to be pretty young who got into my group and started chattering. Nothing useful or interesting, just chatter. One of them had ganked another of them on an alt, the mage Zord kept linking dps meters after every other pull, just really really pointless crap and confusion and malarkey.
I went into my Real ID whisper window, told a friend that "My group is full of morons. Except the healer." I could still more or less see party chat -- I have it set up to pop up a chat dialogue box like for Say chat.
Eventually, though, their pointless chatter that I was happy to ignore turned on me:
[Nikkaps-Haomarush]: lol tank your still using [Aegis of the Scarlet Commander]
[Windwhistler]: And [Dread Pirate Ring].
[Nikkaps]: my 41 pally has a better shield tho
[Windwhistler]: Probably. I don't care, though.
[Zord-Steamwheedle Cartel]: Lol
[Zord]: HOLY CRAP
[Zord]: [Aegis of the Scarlet Commander]?!?!?!?!
[Nikkaps]: don't back sas me or i'll make mr. wiggles into bacon [Did I mention his (or someone's) first statement in the group was "DIE MR WIGGLES!!" Yeah. Started me off with a great impression.]
[Zord]: Holy !@#$.
[Zord]: my level 39 warrior has that
[Windwhistler]: Switching chat channels.
[At this point, I did switch channels to my Real ID window but could still see the popups. I really really wish I couldn't. I just wanted to get the run over with.]
[Nikkaps]: love you too
[Zord]: SHes fail
[Nikkaps]: my 41 pally had a shield with 2200 armor
[Zord]: What other bad gear does she have
[Zord]: [Highlander's Plate Greaves] [The end boss in the instance we were in has a great boot upgrade for me.]
[Nikkaps]: check her ring
[Zord]: Level 40
[Zord]: HOLY %^&* A PURPLE GEAR
[Zord]: [Berserker Bracers]
[Zord]: level 40
[Zord]: Double gratz
[Zord]: I leveled and hunter?
[Nikkaps]: how has she not died yet
[Zord]: She can't hold aggro for !@#$ tho [He almost died every single pull because he kept pulling aggro. Just him. No one else. Can anyone quote the rule for dps pulling aggro off tanks?]
[Zord]: U tew
[Anyi-Scilla]: i can keep her up
[Zord]: Only cuz of heirlooms [I mentioned this to husband's best friend. He made a face and said "So the only reason she could keep you up was because of gear."]
[Anyi]: skill duh
[Zord]: THEY WANTED TO KIC U
[Zord]: I said no
[Zord]: I said no no
[Nikkaps]: :( y
[Vaeyethror-Executus]: i said no
[Zord]: THe tank prolly initiated it
[Windwhistler]: I did. Have fun waiting for a new tank. My queue is instant anyway. Great heals, Anyi, you've been the only mature person here. :)
[I shouldn't have said only, the third dps (who came in when another chattery dps d/c'd) kept his mouth wisely shut. Until he voted no and lost his tank, of course.]
TL;DR - They made fun of my gear even though nobody who wasn't a moron died during the run. My tanking philosophy is: as long as I survive, keep aggro off the healer, and know when to use cooldowns, my gear is fine. End TL;DR
I'll upgrade when I get the opportunity to or when someone finally lists tank plate on my AH. If I really can't tank with my gear, I don't tank.
Anyway, I'm thinking it's a really bad idea to piss off your tank if your run is going smoothly. Hopefully, the healer left too and they had to wait another half hour to get a group again. Crossing fingers.
During my annoyed complaining to husband's best friend, I got a solid tip. HBF said that shields make up about half a tank's armor and I should probably get one that has dumb stats on it (caster stats) just for the armor boost. He said I'd probably still get made fun of by morons, but. Gonna do it.
Afterward, I concluded wryly that the entire thing was husband's fault. He quit WoW for a while and he's the one who buys gear for Whistler (without being asked; he just loves to gear out my warrior). Silly husband!