tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post3988972072139501920..comments2023-09-29T10:42:24.121-04:00Comments on Letters from Birdfall: DND, or "Chatting With The Fam"Bethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07275637177494490776noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post-59827232051031681512009-10-19T10:00:10.271-04:002009-10-19T10:00:10.271-04:00lol. I dunno' . . . kinda' makes sense th...lol. I dunno' . . . kinda' makes sense that maybe the men would be more conerned when you're <i>"on the verge of . . . castrating someone."</i><br /><br />Back in college, my wife actually had a summer job castrating sheep. Makes the angry emo days even more exciting.Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09440513682491672661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post-17175148288984392982009-10-17T18:58:34.953-04:002009-10-17T18:58:34.953-04:00My husband has become pretty good at anticipating ...My husband has become pretty good at anticipating when I'm going to be completely irrational. The best tactic seems to be bringing home a present or doing something sweet like making me dinner or just bringing me a cup of tea. It jolts me out of it pretty well. <br /><br />He learnt the hard way that trying to be the rational one in my irrational tantrum just won't work. Doing something nice makes me realise I'm being an idiot :)Helhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05759944729862063033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post-88212554476444295402009-10-17T13:40:10.040-04:002009-10-17T13:40:10.040-04:00What works for me (though it can seem like a physi...What works for me (though it can seem like a physical hazard at the time): HUGS.<br /><br />Hugs provide the transition from irrational to practical because the woman will often break down crying when you hug her as she's ranting and then you can fetch her some chocolate (or wine) and rationally explain how her problem could be solved (usually by chocolate or wine).Jon Blevinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02844700314444300514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post-39014549675272563132009-10-17T13:28:15.353-04:002009-10-17T13:28:15.353-04:00I think you're doing the best you can, honestl...I think you're doing the best you can, honestly.<br /><br />The only thing I'd really encourage (for all men) is to try and be as understanding as possible. Not just ducking and placating but really listening without jumping in to try and fix everything. A woman in emo anger mode doesn't need her problems solved, she just needs someone to really hear her without judging.<br /><br />That's one thing my husband's learned -- when I got irrational, he used to try to give me solutions but all I really wanted was for him to listen and offer understanding. When you're irrational, people trying to be practical is irritating. You just need to vent.<br /><br />So I guess... let venting be venting. Let the calm afterward be practical time.<br /><br />(Disclaimer: All women are different, but I think this applies to most.)Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07275637177494490776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post-1667413705391112162009-10-17T13:14:52.289-04:002009-10-17T13:14:52.289-04:00So how should a husband/brother/random guy on the ...So how should a husband/brother/random guy on the street that just happened to set of your emo monster, react to an angry emo freak? <br /><br />My wife and I have been married for 17 years. I can see the angry emo coming before it even starts, yet I still don't know how to respond other than walk on egg shells, smile and nod my head saying yes dear.<br /><br />The hard thing is, her concerns are legitimate, she's just blowing them WAY out of proportion.Copernicushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15217798617028759661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post-25399496728877155032009-10-17T12:54:54.960-04:002009-10-17T12:54:54.960-04:00BOTH, if they keep up with that whining. /flexBOTH, if they keep up with that whining. /flexJon Blevinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02844700314444300514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post-53373291433855771062009-10-17T12:19:37.861-04:002009-10-17T12:19:37.861-04:00I'm assuming the bats would be for the boyfrie...I'm assuming the bats would be for the boyfriends and not your sisters. >_>Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07275637177494490776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-98202484097177760.post-87580557365533746782009-10-17T09:33:43.594-04:002009-10-17T09:33:43.594-04:00'holy monkey lovin' PMS monster screaming&...'holy monkey lovin' PMS monster screaming' is pretty much how I react to my own sisters when they PMS.<br /><br />Which seems like constantly, as both their boyfriends have been jackasses and dumped them lately. >.><br /><br />My mom said I'm not allowed to do the brother thing, mostly because it involves metal baseball bats, and I don't want a criminal record.Viktor Mayrinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16870330160859276804noreply@blogger.com